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The Power of Positive Self Talk

Positive Self Talk and Daily Affirmations

Stuart Smalley of Saturday Night Live fame tried to teach us that we’re good enough, we’re smart enough, and doggone it, people like us!  It was a little tongue in cheek comedy for us to enjoy, but the truth of the matter is, we need that in our daily lives.  We need to talk to ourselves as if we were encouraging someone else.  So quick are we to berate ourselves for the mistakes we make in life, but not so much to praise ourselves for our successes.

Our subconscious is loyal to a fault

Our subconscious will not make us a liar.  Whatever we tell ourselves, our subconscious takes that at face value and does whatever it can to make that statement true.  For instance, if you’re trying to remember something, your subconscious is actively searching its vast database to find the answer, but the minute you say “I can’t remember.” it stops looking because you’ve told it that it won’t find anything.  If you instead say something like “I’ll remember in a minute.” and then go on with something else, this does two things, one, it gives your subconscious permission to continue researching the answer, and two, it gives your subconscious a time limit.  Try it, you’ll be amazed at the results.

This is also true if we ask it negative questions, like “Why does this always happen?” or “Why can’t I lose weight?”  These will force your subconscious to come up with all the reasons in the past that this has happened to you or why you failed on your previous attempts to lose weight.  And this isn’t just limited to weight loss.  You have to be careful what you ask yourself and how you phrase those questions.

Fake it until you make it

Try an experiment with yourself.  If you’re trying to lose weight, say something like “My ideal weight is (whatever your goal weight is) and I’m always at my ideal weight.”  This will set your subconscious in motion to covertly put you in situations to where you’ll burn calories, or make better decisions on what to eat.  It’s not something that will happen overnight, but eventually your habits will change and you’ll start to notice a difference.  You’ll see yourself taking the stairs instead of the elevator.  Ordering smaller portions at the restaurant.  Buying healthier food, or just avoiding unhealthy food when you go shopping.  The thing is, you have to be consistent and consciously keep telling yourself this Daily Affirmation.  The best times to do this is right when you wake up and just before you go to sleep at night.  That means the minute your alarm goes off, you tell yourself your daily affirmation(s), and just before you close your eyes to go to sleep you do it again.  It doesn’t have to be about weight loss, this is just an example, it can be anything from “I have a finely tuned ability to recall memories and information.” Or “I’m a very successful salesperson.  Everyone wants to buy from me, because I give superior customer service and make a difference in their lives.”

Good In = Good Out

You’ve probably heard something similar to this in the past, and when it comes to your subconscious it’s absolutely 100 percent true.  We are bombarded with so much negative information every day, from Social Media, the News, Friends, and Family.  You have to make a conscious effort to filter what you’re exposed to.  I try not to watch the news.  I figure if it gets bad enough, someone will tell me about it.  I watch my favorite TV shows on streaming apps to cut down on the commercials I see.  I hide negative posts on my Social Media pages.  I try to surround myself with positive, like-minded people.  If I find something good, like a medical or scientific discovery, I share it so others can see something positive as well.  Most of my personal posts aren’t personal at all, they’re humorous in nature.  I don’t “air my dirty laundry in public” as they used to say.  We can each make a positive impact on not just ourselves, but the people we interact with on a daily basis, just by changing the language we use.

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A Goal Without A Plan Is A Dream

What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve

Nothing is more powerful than the imagination, and nothing is more gratifying than achieving something that you’ve conceived of and worked for.  A lot of people dream of success, but do nothing to achieve the success they so desperately want.  It takes more than just wanting to be successful, you have to set goals, make plans and work steadily to achieve it.  Most of us don’t know how to set goals, make plans or manage our time efficiently, so we get frustrated and quit at the first sign of resistance.

Set your Goals in concrete and your Plans in sand

You must have a clearly defined goal. 

John Rockefeller once said,If your only goal is to become rich, you will never achieve it.

I want to be rich is too abstract of a concept to be an achievable goal.  Don’t just think about your goal, write it down.  It must be clearly defined and put a deadline on it.  A clearly defined goal will keep you focused and a deadline will keep you determined.  Your goal will always be the same, but your plans for reaching that goal may change and change often.  A clearly defined goal will allow you to pivot when challenges come along.

Obstacles are those things you see when you take your eyes off the goal

Trust me, there will be plenty of distractions when you set your plan in motion. 

Robert Heinlein said, In the absence of clearly-defined goals, we become strangely loyal to performing daily trivia until ultimately we become enslaved by it.

As human beings, we love to procrastinate.  We do menial tasks that give us the illusion that we are productive when in reality it’s just the opposite.  If your goal is to run a business and be profitable, then you have to ask yourself, is this an Income Producing Activity (IPA)?  Is what you’re doing bringing you closer to what you ultimately want?  If not, then rethink your actions. 

A winner concentrates on that which is goal achieving rather than tension relieving.” – Denis Waitley. 

Does that mean you have to be working 24/7/365?  Of course not, but schedule your escapes within your plan so you don’t get side tracked from your goal.

Make sure you get that feeling of accomplishment daily

Most of us that are working a business on our own don’t get that feeling of accomplishment on a daily basis.  To overcome that, think about making lists.  Start off with a daily Six Most Important Things list.  This doesn’t have to be all goal related, but make sure that the majority of the list are IPA’s.  As you go through the day, you can check these things off of your list and get that feeling of accomplishment that we all need.  If you don’t get to something, don’t get frustrated, just move it to the next days list and move on.  Chart out your plans to reach your goal.  Put them on a white board or poster and mark off each milestone you reach.  Build the excitement within you as you see yourself progressing closer and closer to your goal.

Have a “Why”

The best way to motivate you into reaching a goal is to have a strong “Why”

Why do you want to reach this goal?  What will your life be like once you reach your goal?  How will reaching your goal make you feel?  These are just some of the questions you should be asking yourself to clearly define your “Why”.  The more emotional you are about the goal, the more motivated you will be to achieve it.

You don’t have to run the race alone

Just because you have a goal, doesn’t mean you have to be a Lone Ranger.  Find someone that has a similar goal and become running buddies.  Encourage each other through the obstacles and successes along the way.  If you have family, get them involved too.  You’ll be surprised how excited your partner or children will be to help you track your goals.  Make it part of your daily routine to get with them to mark off your successes.  This will also motivate you to keep going when you stumble.

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Affiliate Marketing, Wassup!

So, you have a computer and you can surf the web, but how do you make that profitable?

Affiliate Marketing!

It’s easy to learn, and has the potential for some great residual profit, and that’s what we’re all looking for, right? How to make our time and money work for us and not the other way around.

You might say “But Chris, what IS Affiliate Marketing?” I’m glad you asked!

Affiliate Marketing is an arrangement by which an online retailer pays a commission to an external website (YOU) for traffic or sales generated from its referrals.

That’s right, companies will pay you just for promoting their products and services.

Have you ever gone to a restaurant that you loved, or saw a movie that moved you, and you passed that information on to your friends, who then visited that restaurant or watched that movie, just because you suggested it? Well, that’s Marketing in its basic form, only you didn’t make any money from that. Affiliate Marketing is basically the same thing, only you promote products and services that pay you for recommending them.

Now, here’s the kicker.

You’re going to have to be patient, dedicated and determined. This isn’t a get rich quick plan, this is a long term business plan. You will need to learn how to research subjects of interest, Affiliate Programs or Direct Merchants to work with. You will also need to build up your customer base and network with other Affiliate Marketers to maximize your time and profitability.

One of the best ways to get started is to start a Blog or Blog Farm. This will get you into the habit of researching information and putting it out there for your customers to read and talk about. Find a niche that interests and excites you and learn as much as you can about it, then put that information into an easy to understand post and share it out.

Then after you have some solid results you can move onto promoting products and services in new niches. Affiliate marketing or any affiliate program is only going to grow globally as the trends of internet sales and marketing increase and my guess is some of us stand to make an incredible amount of money by researching it and then just plainly going and doing it.

Where will you be in 5 years? Because affiliate marketing has the huge potential to take you to where ever you want to go if you let it.

What was that? What is a Blog?

Man, you’re great at asking the right questions!

A Blog is a regularly updated website or web page, typically one run by an individual or small group, that is written in an informal or conversational style. Have you ever posted something on social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.)? If you have, then you’re already off to a great start!

This has many advantages including the fact that blogs are free to start, own and maintain and they are also loved by the search engines if you can provide unique content. It couldn’t be made simpler for you to launch your blogs and post some free articles to them. There is a ton of information online on how to start and maintain a Blog, so here’s your first thing to research!

Once you’ve got your Blog built and running, then you can look for products or services that offer commissions to Affiliate Marketers and start talking about and sharing those products and services. There are many different programs available to learn how to do this and we will share some of these on this Blog site. Some of these instructional programs will also pay you a commission for driving traffic to them, so you could literally earn while you learn!