Positive Self Talk and Daily Affirmations
Stuart Smalley of Saturday Night Live fame tried to teach us that we’re good enough, we’re smart enough, and doggone it, people like us! It was a little tongue in cheek comedy for us to enjoy, but the truth of the matter is, we need that in our daily lives. We need to talk to ourselves as if we were encouraging someone else. So quick are we to berate ourselves for the mistakes we make in life, but not so much to praise ourselves for our successes.
Our subconscious is loyal to a fault
Our subconscious will not make us a liar. Whatever we tell ourselves, our subconscious takes that at face value and does whatever it can to make that statement true. For instance, if you’re trying to remember something, your subconscious is actively searching its vast database to find the answer, but the minute you say “I can’t remember.” it stops looking because you’ve told it that it won’t find anything. If you instead say something like “I’ll remember in a minute.” and then go on with something else, this does two things, one, it gives your subconscious permission to continue researching the answer, and two, it gives your subconscious a time limit. Try it, you’ll be amazed at the results.
This is also true if we ask it negative questions, like “Why does this always happen?” or “Why can’t I lose weight?” These will force your subconscious to come up with all the reasons in the past that this has happened to you or why you failed on your previous attempts to lose weight. And this isn’t just limited to weight loss. You have to be careful what you ask yourself and how you phrase those questions.
Fake it until you make it
Try an experiment with yourself. If you’re trying to lose weight, say something like “My ideal weight is (whatever your goal weight is) and I’m always at my ideal weight.” This will set your subconscious in motion to covertly put you in situations to where you’ll burn calories, or make better decisions on what to eat. It’s not something that will happen overnight, but eventually your habits will change and you’ll start to notice a difference. You’ll see yourself taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Ordering smaller portions at the restaurant. Buying healthier food, or just avoiding unhealthy food when you go shopping. The thing is, you have to be consistent and consciously keep telling yourself this Daily Affirmation. The best times to do this is right when you wake up and just before you go to sleep at night. That means the minute your alarm goes off, you tell yourself your daily affirmation(s), and just before you close your eyes to go to sleep you do it again. It doesn’t have to be about weight loss, this is just an example, it can be anything from “I have a finely tuned ability to recall memories and information.” Or “I’m a very successful salesperson. Everyone wants to buy from me, because I give superior customer service and make a difference in their lives.”
Good In = Good Out
You’ve probably heard something similar to this in the past, and when it comes to your subconscious it’s absolutely 100 percent true. We are bombarded with so much negative information every day, from Social Media, the News, Friends, and Family. You have to make a conscious effort to filter what you’re exposed to. I try not to watch the news. I figure if it gets bad enough, someone will tell me about it. I watch my favorite TV shows on streaming apps to cut down on the commercials I see. I hide negative posts on my Social Media pages. I try to surround myself with positive, like-minded people. If I find something good, like a medical or scientific discovery, I share it so others can see something positive as well. Most of my personal posts aren’t personal at all, they’re humorous in nature. I don’t “air my dirty laundry in public” as they used to say. We can each make a positive impact on not just ourselves, but the people we interact with on a daily basis, just by changing the language we use.